What is it and how does the Law of the “Mirror” and our Shadow act ?

Nowadays social media especially Facebook are in their most oftentimes expression the realm of projections which we will discuss in this article together with the Law of the “Mirror.”

We understand the human being as a circle in which one part, about 10 percent, is the conscious, that is, all that I know about myself; the remaining 90 percent is the unconscious part of which a small black dot of the circle is our Shadow, that is, that part of our very deep inner self with which I am absolutely not in contact ( there is no direct contact between the conscious and the shadow ).

How does the shadow and the Law of the “Mirror” act in our daily life ?

When I meet another person, with a shadow different from mine, it may happen that this person brings into his consciousness a part of my shadow, that is, he enacts in his daily life a behavior that is “forbidden” to me .

Let us take a concrete example: if as a child I grew up in a very active family, where there was always a lot to do and learn, it is likely that my passive part has fallen into my shadow, this is because I cannot afford to be passive, to cry, to waste time.

So if I meet a person who is passive in life, that is, who doesn’t decide, wastes time, doesn’t do concrete things and postpones often; already at the first meeting, before I even talk to him I already feel that I don’t like that person ( because the latter carries in his conscious something that is forbidden to me): this is Shadow Projection.

If the other person is projecting our unconscious Shadow the dislike is really great, if they are projecting only other parts of our unconscious the dislike and annoyance is less.

So the Law of the “Mirror” allows me to go and understand and work on what the other person is manifesting about me, for example if we read on social media a sentence or comment that bothers me it is not good and evolved to respond immediately because at that point I am reactive, it means that my shadow or a part of my unconscious has been touched.

Better to wait and observe yourself, ask yourself questions: what is being said that bothers me so much? , if I am bothered by arrogance in the other person, it doesn’t mean that I have to become arrogant or experience it, but rather I have to ask myself, ” What do I feel about arrogance?” “What emotion does arrogance make me experience or what do I feel when I am with an arrogant person?”

I have to focus on my emotions feelings at that moment, because the problem is not of the arrogant person, but mine in regard to that emotion, which is teaching me something that I have to improve in me, for example in this case the ability to show myself, which in the arrogant person is exaggerated, but maybe in me is completely dormant. 

 

“Love your enemy…” is exactly that; that is to say, if the other person were not so different from me, so opposite, if the other person did not manifest my shadow in his or her life, I could not fully know myself; certainly this process is troublesome and painful but it is part of our evolution.

How can we work on our Shadow?

The moment we are born, a shadow is always formed by the law of duality, that is, an opposite of me, if I am born in the sign of Aries I will have Libra my opposite, if I am born as a woman with a strong feminine archetype, I will have a more passive feminine one at my opposite, etc. all of this goes to build the first circle which is the Individual Shadow, the second outermost circle is that of the Family Shadow ( the rules and what cannot be done in the family), then follows the circle of the Shadow of my city/culture and finally that of the National Shadow , all of these Shadows unite with each other in me; to make changes on individuals for example the powerful work directly on the National Shadow which in turn goes to modify the Individual one.

So from this we can deduce how important Research Work is, if I in my own small way go to work on my Individual Shadow in order to strengthen it, I become disengaged from the Collective Shadow and am no longer at the mercy of what is going on outside, or manipulable by the system; this has to be done by working on the little things that bother me in the everyday in small doses and with a daily commitment.

So to conclude, if I react to something that bothers me it is because a little piece of my unconscious has been touched and if I react badly a little piece of my Shadow has been touched, without judgment so we welcome our limitation, our anger, our Shadow, our frustration and this will allow us to become free human beings.