#pillola14 – To each their place. Rules and Justice to live freely in your own family system.

For years, even though I am young, I have found myself working, first on myself and then with others on family systems, Alejandro Jodorowsky said: “Everyone should know their family tree. Family is our treasure chest but also our death trap.”

This statement can make us understand how much our family “system” can influence our life, our happiness, fulfillment, our ability and freedom to move towards life without looking back.

In the Family Constellations we work on a symbolic level through the so-called 3 Orders of Love:

1 Belonging: giving a place to our parents and then to all family members, especially the excluded.

2 Hierarchy: recognize the seniority of those born before us and those who arrived before us.

3 Balance between five and receive:  seeking balance in the couple in the family and learning to set limits between “giving”; be for a conscious love not for a blind love if we don’t know how to manage it, too much giving can kill us or make us ill.

The mind traps us in the family system due to often toxic family “loyalty”, which leads us to repeat or repair situations that do not concern us, but which come to us from the past.

And so we cannot take ownership of our destiny, the one that is ours and for which we have chosen to live this life, because we live someone else’s destiny.

Let us remember that the healing process of toxic family realities lasts a lifetime and through the constellations and a path, which involves a long work on whether we can help ourselves heal, and finally live our identity to the full ❤️‍🩹.